Brendan had a GREAT day!!! Whoo Hoo!!!! His Dad had no trouble getting him to school. He was fine at school. He was really tired when he came home, so his Dad cancelled his afternoon therapy session. Good thing because Brendan napped for about 1.5 hours. He was fine with his Dad all day. When I got home from work, he did fine with me as well. : ) What was funny was he wanted a second serving of tacos. I made him two more. I put it on the table for him and he looked at it. Then he showed me three fingers and said, "three". I said, "Oh, you wanted three tacos?" and he said, "Yeah." He didn't get mad or frustrated like he has been when something doesn't go his way. I glady gave him more tacos! : )
Today there was no hitting , no headbutting, there was a little screaming with me, but he stopped when I asked him to. He seems so calm, peaceful and happy. I cannot tell you how wonderful it is for me to write this. I was beginning to lose hope and faith that our situation would not get better.
I will have Kathleen and Linda explain about the UED which I feel made a huge difference. This is incredible!
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
Parent update 2/28/12
It has been a while since I have posted. Some things and events are at times, to hard to relive (or write about).
Kathleen and Linda came by last night to work on Brendan. He was already in bed. It was the most calm (and quiet) I have seen him in awhile. He did have a tear slide down his face periodically. I think this is because he feels safe with them and the tears or that of relief.
This morning Brendan woke up in a good mood although his eyes were puffy. However, as soon as he found out he was going to school, he got very agitated. He was jumping, he was hitting the wall (at least it wasnt' me). I let him get it out and told him he has to go to school. It is a hard decision to make because I don't want him to take out his aggressions at school. However, I knew that if I gave in, then he will try this behavior every morning thinking he won't have to go. Luckily one of his favorite therapist was due to work with him at school today. So I mentioned to him that she would be there. THIS is what motivated him to go. It wasn't easy. But I gave him a monetary reward for getting dressed, then brushing his teeth, then getting in the car...you get the picture. It was hard for him to get out of the car once we got to school, but he went into class.
His Dad and I met with the school's behavioral consultant. As we were relaying all the changes in him lately, sleeping more, staying in his pajamas all day (of course who wouldn't like to do that) not wanting to go out, isn't interested in playing on his computer, doesn't want to shop on ebay, etc. Although much of these changes can be do to hormonal changes, being a pre-teen, etc. It hit me and the behavioral consultant at the same time the he could be suffering from depression. His Dad brought up a good point that because Brendan is very aware of things he may be realizing how different he is. Being a big kid doesn't help either when he towers over everyone else. So his afternoon program is going to focus more on independant skills (cooking meals) helping out more around the house. We are also going to turn the garage into a huge gym for him. Kinda of a "man-cave" where he can go and let out his aggressions or just exercise. It's going to take some work as we need to get rid of alot of stuff (willingly though). Our behavioral consultant may have someone that can watch Brendan so his Dad and I can work on the garage together to get it done faster. We will make it happen.
When I picked him up, they said that he had his moments of frustration but didn't hit anyone. So, he got to go to Target. However, he didn't realize that he walked out of class still holding this squishy ball. I told him we'll return it tomorrow. But he got upset. So, I said go ahead and take it back to class. This still made him upset and he started hit the wall. He was so mad at himself for taking the ball. He hates to think that he has made a mistake. SO, I pretended to return the ball to class (I disappeared around the corner so he didn't see me) and stuffed it into my pocket. I told him that I'm glad he hit the wall and not me.
He was fine in Target until he started to casually tear open the DVD. I told him we have to buy it first. Then he took it and tried to break it. So, I said that's it, we are going. He then grabbed a CD and threw it into the main aisle. I dragged him over and picked it up, and then we left. Yes, I know what you are thinking, I should have had him pick it up. However, not sure if he was going to have a full blown tantrum, I didn't push it. I could tell he was looking to grab and throw something else. So I grabbed him by both hands (had to dig my nails in a bit to distract him) and we left the store without further incident. Even though no words were spoken and there was no yelling, the guy who sits our in front to ask for money was about to and then stopped himself and said "ah, never mind". Traffic also stopped to let us cross in the parking lot. Thank God people sometimes get a clue. When he is like this, having people talk to him aggravates him more as well as having stop and wait. Someone was watching over us at that moment.
He actually did pretty good with this afternoons therapist. He had a few outbursts but nothing major. Then he was really good for most of the evening. No hitting, no headbutting, no screaming, no growling. Since taking a bath has been a disaster lately, I had him take a shower in our bathroom instead. This went fine. He wasn't agitated all night.. until bedtime.
Something in room set him off. He lunged for me a few times, starting screaming, hitting the wall. So, I sprayed his room with Holy water and sage. He is still up as I can hear him. But he is more calm. He is growling a little.
I am praying he has a good day tomorrow. I am hoping all will go well in the morning.
Kathleen and Linda came by last night to work on Brendan. He was already in bed. It was the most calm (and quiet) I have seen him in awhile. He did have a tear slide down his face periodically. I think this is because he feels safe with them and the tears or that of relief.
This morning Brendan woke up in a good mood although his eyes were puffy. However, as soon as he found out he was going to school, he got very agitated. He was jumping, he was hitting the wall (at least it wasnt' me). I let him get it out and told him he has to go to school. It is a hard decision to make because I don't want him to take out his aggressions at school. However, I knew that if I gave in, then he will try this behavior every morning thinking he won't have to go. Luckily one of his favorite therapist was due to work with him at school today. So I mentioned to him that she would be there. THIS is what motivated him to go. It wasn't easy. But I gave him a monetary reward for getting dressed, then brushing his teeth, then getting in the car...you get the picture. It was hard for him to get out of the car once we got to school, but he went into class.
His Dad and I met with the school's behavioral consultant. As we were relaying all the changes in him lately, sleeping more, staying in his pajamas all day (of course who wouldn't like to do that) not wanting to go out, isn't interested in playing on his computer, doesn't want to shop on ebay, etc. Although much of these changes can be do to hormonal changes, being a pre-teen, etc. It hit me and the behavioral consultant at the same time the he could be suffering from depression. His Dad brought up a good point that because Brendan is very aware of things he may be realizing how different he is. Being a big kid doesn't help either when he towers over everyone else. So his afternoon program is going to focus more on independant skills (cooking meals) helping out more around the house. We are also going to turn the garage into a huge gym for him. Kinda of a "man-cave" where he can go and let out his aggressions or just exercise. It's going to take some work as we need to get rid of alot of stuff (willingly though). Our behavioral consultant may have someone that can watch Brendan so his Dad and I can work on the garage together to get it done faster. We will make it happen.
When I picked him up, they said that he had his moments of frustration but didn't hit anyone. So, he got to go to Target. However, he didn't realize that he walked out of class still holding this squishy ball. I told him we'll return it tomorrow. But he got upset. So, I said go ahead and take it back to class. This still made him upset and he started hit the wall. He was so mad at himself for taking the ball. He hates to think that he has made a mistake. SO, I pretended to return the ball to class (I disappeared around the corner so he didn't see me) and stuffed it into my pocket. I told him that I'm glad he hit the wall and not me.
He was fine in Target until he started to casually tear open the DVD. I told him we have to buy it first. Then he took it and tried to break it. So, I said that's it, we are going. He then grabbed a CD and threw it into the main aisle. I dragged him over and picked it up, and then we left. Yes, I know what you are thinking, I should have had him pick it up. However, not sure if he was going to have a full blown tantrum, I didn't push it. I could tell he was looking to grab and throw something else. So I grabbed him by both hands (had to dig my nails in a bit to distract him) and we left the store without further incident. Even though no words were spoken and there was no yelling, the guy who sits our in front to ask for money was about to and then stopped himself and said "ah, never mind". Traffic also stopped to let us cross in the parking lot. Thank God people sometimes get a clue. When he is like this, having people talk to him aggravates him more as well as having stop and wait. Someone was watching over us at that moment.
He actually did pretty good with this afternoons therapist. He had a few outbursts but nothing major. Then he was really good for most of the evening. No hitting, no headbutting, no screaming, no growling. Since taking a bath has been a disaster lately, I had him take a shower in our bathroom instead. This went fine. He wasn't agitated all night.. until bedtime.
Something in room set him off. He lunged for me a few times, starting screaming, hitting the wall. So, I sprayed his room with Holy water and sage. He is still up as I can hear him. But he is more calm. He is growling a little.
I am praying he has a good day tomorrow. I am hoping all will go well in the morning.
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Afternoon with Brendan - 2/21/12
Today Linda and I went over to Brendan's house. He has been having ups and downs and his mom can always use a break. When we arrived Brendan was on the computer viewing Wiggles. He really likes Wiggles. We talked for a bit.
Linda has leant Brendan's family a new device we are trying out - one for which you set an intention and turn it on for a week. Every week you have to reset your intention and keep it on. We tried it at the clinic and it cleared the air within a day. We are still testing it and will keep you updated as to what we think about it.
Realizing Brendan has been in the house for a few days we took him outside. We raced each other up and down the street (they live in a cul-de-sac). We also brought his trampoline out and he jumped on it higher than I have ever seen him. Then we went into the back yard and he swang on the swings for quite some time. We also brought the trampoline into the backyard and he would go back and forth - between the swing and the trampoline. Linda swang with him.
When we left Brendan was still outside. Getting some exercise was the greatest thing for him. We all agreed we should keep this up. Looking forward to seeing him on Thursday.
Linda has leant Brendan's family a new device we are trying out - one for which you set an intention and turn it on for a week. Every week you have to reset your intention and keep it on. We tried it at the clinic and it cleared the air within a day. We are still testing it and will keep you updated as to what we think about it.
Realizing Brendan has been in the house for a few days we took him outside. We raced each other up and down the street (they live in a cul-de-sac). We also brought his trampoline out and he jumped on it higher than I have ever seen him. Then we went into the back yard and he swang on the swings for quite some time. We also brought the trampoline into the backyard and he would go back and forth - between the swing and the trampoline. Linda swang with him.
When we left Brendan was still outside. Getting some exercise was the greatest thing for him. We all agreed we should keep this up. Looking forward to seeing him on Thursday.
Thursday, February 16, 2012
CST Session 2/16/12
Brendan arrived with his father. He calmly walked around the center - from the kid's room to the hallways to the therapy room. He has had a difficult time lately with outbursts, growling and hitting. Today we were trying something new.
Brendan settled in and I placed my hand on his sacrum; while Linda put hers around his head. We talked with him and his Dad while we waited until 2:15 p.m. when John would begin. Brendan could sense something new was happening and we explained to him what John would be doing.
One of the things John does is he clears energy. John informed us Brendan was like a radio with multiple receivors opened at the same time. He could hear and feel energy coming at him from many different directions at one time. It can be very overwhelming for Brendan. John spent much time clearing the energies and creating a bubble around Brendan to prevent all the energies from coming in.
During this time John also spoke with Brendan's Dad, explaining how it was very important for him and his wife to hold clear and happy energy around Brendan as much as possible. He also told us we needed to send a lot of energy to Brendan's heart so he can feel love. John also spent time grounding Brendan.
When the session was over Brendan did not want to leave. He stayed in the therapy room for quite some time. At times he would walk out but then would come back - he definitely felt comfortable and peaceful.
We have some work to do to aide Brendan in his recovery. We need to focus on the frontal lobe as well as the connection all the way through to the heart. This includes the throat, nose, ears, eyes, etc. In addition he told us Brendan was like a donkey, large and gentle. He needs to be treated very gently now - as prior to this he was classified more as "hardy". The homeopath inquired about using a remedy from the donkey and John told us it was a good place to start. Linda started working on that and I will begin doing more neurofeedback on his frontal lobes (short intervals and low frequencies).
We all felt good about what happened. It felt great to receive feedback - that course we are on is correct; but alter the route. We are excited and optimistic. It was great to see Brendan leave so peaceful and happy.
Brendan settled in and I placed my hand on his sacrum; while Linda put hers around his head. We talked with him and his Dad while we waited until 2:15 p.m. when John would begin. Brendan could sense something new was happening and we explained to him what John would be doing.
One of the things John does is he clears energy. John informed us Brendan was like a radio with multiple receivors opened at the same time. He could hear and feel energy coming at him from many different directions at one time. It can be very overwhelming for Brendan. John spent much time clearing the energies and creating a bubble around Brendan to prevent all the energies from coming in.
During this time John also spoke with Brendan's Dad, explaining how it was very important for him and his wife to hold clear and happy energy around Brendan as much as possible. He also told us we needed to send a lot of energy to Brendan's heart so he can feel love. John also spent time grounding Brendan.
When the session was over Brendan did not want to leave. He stayed in the therapy room for quite some time. At times he would walk out but then would come back - he definitely felt comfortable and peaceful.
We have some work to do to aide Brendan in his recovery. We need to focus on the frontal lobe as well as the connection all the way through to the heart. This includes the throat, nose, ears, eyes, etc. In addition he told us Brendan was like a donkey, large and gentle. He needs to be treated very gently now - as prior to this he was classified more as "hardy". The homeopath inquired about using a remedy from the donkey and John told us it was a good place to start. Linda started working on that and I will begin doing more neurofeedback on his frontal lobes (short intervals and low frequencies).
We all felt good about what happened. It felt great to receive feedback - that course we are on is correct; but alter the route. We are excited and optimistic. It was great to see Brendan leave so peaceful and happy.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012
Night Session 2/6/12
We arrived at Brendan's house around 8:30 p.m. to find him sitting on the couch with his dad. He constantly looked up at the staircase. He did not speak - which is rare.
We spent much time with him - working on his back and attempting to ground him. We then tried various remedies and finally landed on a very strong one that jolted him back into himself. Both parents were present and saw the change in his eyes, face and behavior. He immediately started talking.
Brendan has a way of attracting various energy fields which prove to overwhelm him. Rather than separate he becomes engulfed. He is extremely sensitive to all types of energy - but negative energy truly effects him at great levels. There needs to be a constant flow of positive energy around him for Brendan to be at his best. One other type of energy which effects Brendan is the frequency of the atmosphere. When the atmosphere is dense Brendan can be set off. Usually you can see his agitation begin about 3 days before a major shift of atmospheric energy.
When we left; while he appeared calm; there was this feeling of underlying agitation. We can hope he is doing better. We look forward to hearing how he is.
We spent much time with him - working on his back and attempting to ground him. We then tried various remedies and finally landed on a very strong one that jolted him back into himself. Both parents were present and saw the change in his eyes, face and behavior. He immediately started talking.
Brendan has a way of attracting various energy fields which prove to overwhelm him. Rather than separate he becomes engulfed. He is extremely sensitive to all types of energy - but negative energy truly effects him at great levels. There needs to be a constant flow of positive energy around him for Brendan to be at his best. One other type of energy which effects Brendan is the frequency of the atmosphere. When the atmosphere is dense Brendan can be set off. Usually you can see his agitation begin about 3 days before a major shift of atmospheric energy.
When we left; while he appeared calm; there was this feeling of underlying agitation. We can hope he is doing better. We look forward to hearing how he is.
Sunday, February 5, 2012
CST Session 2/2/12
The agitation is present. Brendan came in and we followed him to the therapy room. When the agitation is present Brendan can throw, kick and break things. Brendan is over 6 feet tall and quite impressive in his build - he can be very intimidating when he gets in this space.
Today the growling was present and we prayed. We also play angel music which Brendan especially likes. As a parent you know your child - as his parents will tell you - under agitation - this is not their child.
We were successful in removing energy fields up to his throat. We believed this happened because we concentrated on Brendan - letting him know it is his voice we are looking to hear, his behavior we are seeking to enjoy. We do not give any credence to the energy with the exception of removing it. Over and over we let Brendan know it was his voice we wanted to hear. He even said "God in me" which was a first. After saying it a few times a growl would appear - his eyes would change, his face contort. We continued to reinforce.
When Brendan left the energy remained in his throat and head. Our next session will be with dealing with his throat and head - his throat first. When this energy/restriction passes we are all hoping it will bring out Brendan's voice. His parents so want to hear it.
We will be working the throat and head and praying. Please offer your prayers to Brendan for our next session. We will keep you posted.
Blessings to all.
Today the growling was present and we prayed. We also play angel music which Brendan especially likes. As a parent you know your child - as his parents will tell you - under agitation - this is not their child.
We were successful in removing energy fields up to his throat. We believed this happened because we concentrated on Brendan - letting him know it is his voice we are looking to hear, his behavior we are seeking to enjoy. We do not give any credence to the energy with the exception of removing it. Over and over we let Brendan know it was his voice we wanted to hear. He even said "God in me" which was a first. After saying it a few times a growl would appear - his eyes would change, his face contort. We continued to reinforce.
When Brendan left the energy remained in his throat and head. Our next session will be with dealing with his throat and head - his throat first. When this energy/restriction passes we are all hoping it will bring out Brendan's voice. His parents so want to hear it.
We will be working the throat and head and praying. Please offer your prayers to Brendan for our next session. We will keep you posted.
Blessings to all.
CST Session 1/25/12
The agitation is beginning to surface even more. There are similar characteristics showing themselves. In our efforts to help Brendan we have not been averse to trying new; sometimes things which may seem strange.
Over a year ago we all went - Brendan, his mom and dad and the therapist to a Catholic priest inquiring about energy fields. We were told by the priest energy fields only enter under physically traumatic events. We came out of our meetings believing energy fields can enter under emotional tramua as well; an area the priest did not agree with us. While we did not agree a wonderful circumstance arose - the unification of the family on a much stronger level. A decision was made in which Brendan was baptized - something he really enjoyed. For these areas we are all grateful!
His mom and others have always believed something deep within Brendan has not been dealt with. The last week brought about the "growling" sound which comes out of Brendan. His mom and therapist have heard it - his father has not.
We spent this session praying and listening to music with Brendan. Brendan is consoled and becomes very quiet and peaceful when God's authority is in essence - even if they are short moments it is noticed. When he growls we really can feel it is not Brendan.
We will continue to work this anchor. We have delayered it and believe we are at the core of it. It is an ugly place. We removed dark energy today. His mom and the therpaist saw orbs in the room as well. We will be trying many things to clear this issue. We have much hope.
Over a year ago we all went - Brendan, his mom and dad and the therapist to a Catholic priest inquiring about energy fields. We were told by the priest energy fields only enter under physically traumatic events. We came out of our meetings believing energy fields can enter under emotional tramua as well; an area the priest did not agree with us. While we did not agree a wonderful circumstance arose - the unification of the family on a much stronger level. A decision was made in which Brendan was baptized - something he really enjoyed. For these areas we are all grateful!
His mom and others have always believed something deep within Brendan has not been dealt with. The last week brought about the "growling" sound which comes out of Brendan. His mom and therapist have heard it - his father has not.
We spent this session praying and listening to music with Brendan. Brendan is consoled and becomes very quiet and peaceful when God's authority is in essence - even if they are short moments it is noticed. When he growls we really can feel it is not Brendan.
We will continue to work this anchor. We have delayered it and believe we are at the core of it. It is an ugly place. We removed dark energy today. His mom and the therpaist saw orbs in the room as well. We will be trying many things to clear this issue. We have much hope.
CST Session 1/18/12
When Brendan came in today he appeared to be agitated - not surfacely but just below the surface. You can sense something not good is simmering. What activates it is unknown. We are still delayering in hopes of finding the anchor or root.
People often ask during recovery why they go back to old thought patterns or restrictions and compressions. I believe this is due to multiple traumas being tied to defined anchor points created usually in youth. Once the anchor is in place it is easy for other injuries to attach itself to an anchor which used some or all of the same pathways.
We are getting closer to Brendan's main anchor point. While many can express themselves; Brendan is just saying some words. It is frustrating for him and you can see it. So we move forward - continuing to decompress with hopefully as little fall out as possible.
People often ask during recovery why they go back to old thought patterns or restrictions and compressions. I believe this is due to multiple traumas being tied to defined anchor points created usually in youth. Once the anchor is in place it is easy for other injuries to attach itself to an anchor which used some or all of the same pathways.
We are getting closer to Brendan's main anchor point. While many can express themselves; Brendan is just saying some words. It is frustrating for him and you can see it. So we move forward - continuing to decompress with hopefully as little fall out as possible.
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