The last two days for Brendan was a little tough. He was to begin mainstream PE on Monday. To make a long story short, it wasn't a good fit - to many kids, chaos, yelling and pushing amongst the kids, etc. Although I always try to provide Brendan with opportunities to try new things, "mainstreaming" is not a high priority on my list.
I have met many parents over the years that are fixated on mainstreaming their child with typical peers. If your child enjoys it, great! But if it causes them more stress, than what's the benefit of doing it? Typical kids don't always demonstrate appropriate behavior. Sometimes their behavior is worse than our special kids. Why would I want him to be exposed to that? What's more important to me is for Brendan to be happy, enjoy going to school, and to feel good about himself. Mainstreaming into PE would have jeopardized this.
I still recall another parent saying that she spent so much energy in having her child around "typical peers". When her daughter was much older, she told her Mom, "I like being around people like me." Don't we all prefer to be around people similar to who we are? Why should our special kids be any different?
Anyway, last night he was very restless. I felt like he needed some release of some sort but was not sure where to start. So, I asked him and he placed my hands on his stomach. I was there for quite awhile. Alot of heat was released and pulsing. Then he put my hand over his heart. He started to cry softly. He was so sad. I reminded him that he no longer has to go to PE, but that I was very proud of him for trying. I think he also missed Kathleen. He is very fond of her and I think he gets withdrawals when he doesn't see her. As I have stated before, CST has been lifesaving to Brendan and our family. It has helped him feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. It has helped him to heal in many ways.
Then he wanted me to work on his head especially on the sides and down by his ears. Lots of pulsing. When it got to be to much, he would move my hand away. Then after a break, he would put my hand back on his head. By the time I finished, it was midnight. But he fell asleep peacefully.
He did have a good day at school today which was great to hear. I told him that tomorrow he will see Kathleen. As soon as I said this, he wanted to go to bed early. Almost like tomorrow can't get here fast enough! :)
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